so, I like a guy.....but I can tell why he chose me...
I could tell from his behavior that his mom was mentally and physically abusive and that he was neglected. -problem is....he won't go to counseling for it to help himself heal. He had a failed marriage and blames his ex-wife for not trying to get to understand him and for the father-in-law for being overly assertive to the point that he was a bit of a bully.
he barely texts me....sees me only after he gets off way late at night from his job....which sucks cos I have to stay up late. I made a boundary to not have sex unless he wants a relationship with me...so he has respected my boundary and we have not had sex.....he literally comes over to cuddle and that's it. He likes to makeout. -Surprises me that for a man....he isn't out for sex.
He's dropped hints that he wants certain things and has talked to women who use the phrase "don't want fuck-boys".....so....basically he's still looking for the "perfect" person I suppose....and when I had asked him why he was talking to me and interested in me.....he said he realized he has to make "compromises" and go for personality and whatever.
so to hear that I'm a "compromise".....and the fact that he barely texts or calls.....he's not emotionally invested in me.....
but he did tell me that he's opened up more to me than anyone he's ever talked to.....and he did open up a lot....and I can tell it's hard for him...
anyway, although he opened up to me about the abuse he's been through....he told me that it's my job to understand him and get him to open up and that he uses these techniques from a book to get me to open up. -I have tried to explain that I'm an open book and his techniques (aren't natural and are not genuine and are forced cos he doesn't know what he's doing) comes from a self-help book that was written by this narcissistic former fbi negotiator that uses a rudimentary combo of psychological, business and common communication techniques.
anyway, he complained that people have given up and won't put in the work to get to know him.....and talked about a female friend....
he honestly believes that you don't have to tell anything about yourself to get hired by a job and to instead have a vision and had me watch this speech by Ronald Reagan that was shallow and just "big government," and mostly a story of whatever.....it was boring in my opinion and not authentic....very shallow...but he admires it....and he does the same practice....and wonders why he didn't get a job that he wanted.....
anyway, he doesn't treat me right....I deserve better. I'm working way harder than he is.....though he's the one that comes and sees me....granted it has screwed my sleep schedule because I have to wait for him to get off work, eat and take his shower before he decides to drive over.....so it's usually around 3am and then he falls asleep at 5am and then he leaves around 8am to 10am....and the cycle starts over....I don't hear from him at all......then he will text or sometimes call after he's off work......so, it's really not fair to me....
I don't deserve this....I deserve better.
I could tell from his behavior that his mom was mentally and physically abusive and that he was neglected. -problem is....he won't go to counseling for it to help himself heal. He had a failed marriage and blames his ex-wife for not trying to get to understand him and for the father-in-law for being overly assertive to the point that he was a bit of a bully.
he barely texts me....sees me only after he gets off way late at night from his job....which sucks cos I have to stay up late. I made a boundary to not have sex unless he wants a relationship with me...so he has respected my boundary and we have not had sex.....he literally comes over to cuddle and that's it. He likes to makeout. -Surprises me that for a man....he isn't out for sex.
He's dropped hints that he wants certain things and has talked to women who use the phrase "don't want fuck-boys".....so....basically he's still looking for the "perfect" person I suppose....and when I had asked him why he was talking to me and interested in me.....he said he realized he has to make "compromises" and go for personality and whatever.
so to hear that I'm a "compromise".....and the fact that he barely texts or calls.....he's not emotionally invested in me.....
but he did tell me that he's opened up more to me than anyone he's ever talked to.....and he did open up a lot....and I can tell it's hard for him...
anyway, although he opened up to me about the abuse he's been through....he told me that it's my job to understand him and get him to open up and that he uses these techniques from a book to get me to open up. -I have tried to explain that I'm an open book and his techniques (aren't natural and are not genuine and are forced cos he doesn't know what he's doing) comes from a self-help book that was written by this narcissistic former fbi negotiator that uses a rudimentary combo of psychological, business and common communication techniques.
anyway, he complained that people have given up and won't put in the work to get to know him.....and talked about a female friend....
he honestly believes that you don't have to tell anything about yourself to get hired by a job and to instead have a vision and had me watch this speech by Ronald Reagan that was shallow and just "big government," and mostly a story of whatever.....it was boring in my opinion and not authentic....very shallow...but he admires it....and he does the same practice....and wonders why he didn't get a job that he wanted.....
anyway, he doesn't treat me right....I deserve better. I'm working way harder than he is.....though he's the one that comes and sees me....granted it has screwed my sleep schedule because I have to wait for him to get off work, eat and take his shower before he decides to drive over.....so it's usually around 3am and then he falls asleep at 5am and then he leaves around 8am to 10am....and the cycle starts over....I don't hear from him at all......then he will text or sometimes call after he's off work......so, it's really not fair to me....
I don't deserve this....I deserve better.